Precious Time

Some evenings at our little dinner table for two, my late husband, Bob Lehmberg, a palliative care and hospice physician, would say, “I told the patient and family, they were into Precious Time.” The emphasis is on “Precious.”

Why the Phrase?

Many clinicians do not want to tell a patient/family that death is approaching. So, my Bob in his compassionate, wise way termed it Precious Time. Patients and families consider being told that they are into Precious Time a true gift. Precious Time is when the loved ones have an opportunity for reflection, being fully present, saying what needs to be said and not saying what is better left unsaid.

Terms are Important

Using the term “death” or “dying” with a family can feel too harsh coming from a healthcare professional. Yet “transitioning” is too opaque and often misunderstood. Bob would tell patients and families, “End of life is nearing” so you are into “Precious Time.” The language is clear, simple, understandable, and kind.

Author:

Jennifer O’Brien has served as CEO for two large physician practices, authored 55+ published pieces, and has given many presentations on end-of-life care. She lives in Little Rock, Arkansas, where she is an artist and advocate for family caregivers and end-of-life preparation. hospicedrswidow.com

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